Anger Management Brisbane

Tired of your anger getting the better of you? Another good day needlessly ruined by anger issues? Loved ones finding ways to scatter rather than stay? Wondering yet again how, where, when it went so wrong…?

Frustration. Dissatisfaction. Self Esteem sagging. Constant-situation-aggravation. Feeling misunderstood yet not quite understanding your own feelings. Long held beliefs that have not served you well… every light begins with darkness.

Stop tolerating your anger and recognise its eager, pained, subconscious plea for help. Heed the plea and stop the hurt. Just as we have hands to hold the sorrow and tears to heal the pain, choose change to manage the anger.

Fix. Choose. Change. Manage. Master.

Fix the underlying problems, choose your thoughts, change your decisions, manage your actions. Master your emotions so your anger no longer rules your life.

Once you learn to master your emotions, you master your life. Anger management is possible. We will team with you to discover your inherent ability to end the turmoil and find a healthy way forward.

Make That Change

HOW?

Convenient and consistent, regardless of the times (COVID or not), our anger management coaching sessions are conducted personally by appointment over the phone or online via Zoom. Please do not stress if you are not familiar with online communication methods as we will guide you through the free, easy set up.

Our anger management service has grown to extend beyond Brisbane to include the Gold Coast, Sunshine Coast, Melbourne, Canberra and Perth. All areas are just one call away on 07 3177 4802. Your first conversation is FREE and without obligation. A risk free and priceless way to move forward…

Fix. Choose. Change. Manage. Master.

Make That Change

You Can Calm Your Emotions

Anger serves a purpose and is not necessarily unhealthy.  However, being quick to anger and feeling angry often probably indicates something is amiss.  Furthermore, explosive anger and temper is someone badly in need of love, support, guidance, empathy and coaching.  This level of anger is seriously dangerous in more ways than one.  Our Anger Coaching service aims to help men and women get to the roots of problematic anger and dissolve them. An initial step we work on in our anger management program is to get good at noticing the warning signs.

Anger is a natural emotion – like happiness, sadness, fear or excitement.  There is nothing wrong with the anger itself and it’s ok to feel angry – we all experience anger.  Did you know anger serves a powerful purpose in human nature?  If something is unjust, anger is probably a healthy emotion to feel.   If, for example, a rule is applied to one group of people, but not applied to another equally worthy group, anger might make sense.  Anger stirs people to stand up for themselves and others.  It’s an emotion that enables human beings to be assertive and to set boundaries for others.  As such, the emotion of anger supports “survival” at an evolutionary level and is a natural human response.

Unfortunately, when anger is the constant and the norm, or when it can surface explosively at any moment, it is no longer constructive.  When addressing anger you your life has become difficult or seems impossible, it’s time to get help.  Contact us on the number below for a complimentary discussion about how our coaching can help with anger management:

When to Consider Calling Anger Management Brisbane

Anger as a ‘secondary’ emotion

Anger can be described as a secondary emotion – meaning there is usually another ‘primary’or more fundamental feeling or emotion beneath it.  A lot of us carry underlying anger that we don’t need to or get to express every day. So, the way anger is expressed on the outside can look different depending upon the individual.  It may look like irritation, aggression, impatience.  Tense muscles, jerky movements and irrational thinking can be present.  We offer guidance on anger management techniques when people realise their anger is:

• Their predominant emotion each and every day
• Nearly always close to the surface
• Something they fear
• A part of them they dislike
• Making their family and loved ones fearful of them, or treading on ‘egg shells’ around topics
• Negatively affecting or damaging personal relationships
• Causing them notoriety – not for the right reasons
• Being noticed by work colleagues
• Resulting in anger outbursts
• Leading to the use of alcohol or other drugs or activities to escape from how they feel and behave

Health concerns become associated with anger issues

Constantly experiencing a high level of anger or rage is not only a social issue.  Anger has many physical symptoms which negatively affect the sufferer.

Amongst the many undesirable physical symptoms of anger needing management are:

• High blood pressure
• Muscle tenseness and headaches
• Stomach disorders
• Anxiety and depression
• Skin problems
• Heart problems
• Sleep problems
• Weakened immune system

Problems that unmanaged anger can cause

Besides personal health issues and feeling of regret and low self esteem, unmanaged anger issues affect the community and society at ground level in the following ways:

Workplace relationship issues and employment issues.  Communication and collaboration is usually pretty important in the workplace to get the job done.  Someone who is quick to anger, frustrated, impatient, intolerant of others and the like is not an easy person to work with.

Friendship and neighbourhood problems. We all know the grumpy man at the corner house.  Or the friend who gets unreasonable when they drink.  And who hasn’t seen road rage?  Unmanaged anger response shows itself in so many ways.

Perhaps the most disturbing – family harm.  A difficult to address problem hidden behind closed doors and fear. Perpetrators of violence are often hurt and have feeling of being unloved and misunderstood themselves.  Actions of physical, emotional or other harm and disrespect towards another can never be condoned.  However, providing access to effective help with anger difficulties is our goal in order to provide a solution.

If strong feelings of anger are present on a regular basis, and you are willing to work together with us, we can help you to better deal with anger.  Call for a discussion about how coaching can help.  All potential new clients are gifted a complimentary session:

“It’s not my fault. I’ve always been like this.”

Quite often a person won’t even realise there is an anger issue.  When something like a personality trait has always been the same way, it just seems normal.  When they identify with a relative, like their father, or mother, who ‘had a bad temper’, they think it’s normal.  It’s the accepted way for them to be.  How were they going to be anything else?  What’s the matter with everyone else?  They know they’re frustrated and they’ll know they feel bad.  But isolating the issue to a problem with their emotional state?  Unlikely.

To assist with helping our clients to develop anger management skills, we offer anger coaching to help them understand the problem.  With understanding comes awareness.  And, once aware of triggers, patterns, feelings and the accustomed unravelling of events thereafter – healing and habit change can begin.  Call to hear more.  Your first conversation is free.  No referral or medical recording is required.

Be the Change You Want to See

Do you experience any of the following?

Feelings of overwhelm, frustration, irritation; needing to explode with anger; throwing or wanting to throw things or hit things; aggression; feeling out of control, unable to think; anger towards those closest to you and who you care about? Mental health issues. Regret, guilt, shame, confusion and exhaustion after an anger episode.  And fear that it will happen again.

How would you like to stop this cycle?

If you could discover ways of dealing the issues and frustration and challenges without ‘losing it’, would you like to?  If you could learn to get what you require – without exploding – would that be of interest?  Do you want to stop scaring and hurting your loved ones?  Would you like to feel good about yourself and how you act?  Fortunately, when you undertake anger coaching with our coaches, a better you is within your grasp. With a greater anger management ability, self esteem is also generally improved.

Where did anger management issues originate for you?

Naturally, nothing in human nature and personalities is ever as simple as ‘black and white’!  But when a human being feels scared, not in control of their own destiny, judged, criticised or simply ‘not good enough’, they are fearful for their own survival.  They don’t feel unconditionally loved.  This is unlikely to be the fault of the life they have created during adulthood, but more likely due to experiences in their upbringing.

Parents, schools, churches, sport coaches, friends – all generally do things with the best of intentions.  They do this with the best of the knowledge that they have at that time.  Yet, the best of the knowledge they have can be harmful and, in many cases, has been.  A child not having a voice that is heard, experiences family violence, hears age-inappropriate stories and has their childhood needs unmet, becomes fearful.  Fear, suppression, feelings of judgement and criticism, expectation and many other natural, human emotions can surface.  Left unassisted and unenlightened in this cause-and-effect sequence, a child grows into an adult with unmanaged emotions and that is damaging to lives.  Some people express these emotions as anger.  Unfortunately, in some it can become harmful anger.

Help when you seek positive change

However, don’t mistake anger coaching for counselling services.  We are experienced, trained and certified coaches and also have a good deal of ‘in the trenches’ real life experiences.  Many anger issues exist due to the sheer absence of knowledge, understanding, life skills, a keen listening ear.  Essentially – we were never taught about our emotional selves, let alone how to manage them. As such, not many of us truly need counsellors or psychologists to analyse us.  Quite often a wise, experienced, patient and compassionate mentor can be your best guide to develop strategies to deal with what is going on for you.  Like us.

Don’t Suffer Alone Any Longer

Know that anger is something we have control over.

It cannot solely be blamed on external factors. No one or no thing ‘made me angry’.   Anger is a reaction to an external factor – quite often a perceived threat. Managing anger involves recognising that.

To a significant degree the choice to become angry (or not) is dictated by our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes.  What might see one individual reacting angrily may be ‘water off a duck’s back’ to another. You’ll likely know that something that will trigger anger in you may just ‘bounce’ off another.

Fortunately, with guidance and intelligent and compassionate coaching, the mechanisms leading to anger that has become out of proportion, unpredictable and uncontrollable once released, can be better understood.  With understanding comes self awareness and the ability to be able to control anger better.

Call Us Today.  We help clients Australia wide.

Areas Serviced by Anger Management Brisbane

Whether you are located in Brisbane or not, you can take advantages of our services!  Our anger coaching sessions are delivered by telephone or Zoom communication. Don’t stress if you’ve never used Zoom (or any other online communications methods) before.  It’s free to use and we can easily guide you through the set up.  In fact, most of our clients opt for good, old-fashioned telephone conversations!

Give us a call on 07 3177 4802 to learn more.

Other areas we have clients include Canberra, Sunshine Coast, Gold Coast, Melbourne and Perth.  Read More about these areas by CLICKING HERE

People Often Ask:

Can someone who’s angry change?

Yes, in many cases, they can. Someone who is one to erupt into anger excessively such that it is causing breakdown of their family, their relationships and their life, will need to want to change.  They are unlikely to change just because someone else has told them they have to.

But, if they want the change for themselves, and are willing to do what is required to change their habits, chances are very good that they can become a calmer person who can manage anger and express anger safely and appropriately.  And this is the ultimate goal of any anger management techniques, whether it’s medical therapy, anger management counselling or coaching, such as we offer in our anger management program.

Is feeling angry a lot a mental health illness?

Possibly, and possibly not.  In some cases a person may have an underlying mental health issue that contribute to their inability to control anger appropriately. A medical professional will diagnose this.

Also likely is that early childhood experiences or traumatic events during a person’s life has contributed them reacting in an angry way, often when an anger outburst wouldn’t seem warranted. Or, more often than anger may seem warranted.  Patterns develop and they get lots of practice reacting angrily to various triggers until eventually it becomes the norm for them.

In the absence of mental health issues or severe trauma, excessive anger can effectively become a ‘bad habit’.  And for sure, a person could really do with some help.  But it’s not always medical help, or psychiatric help that is needed.  Quite often a course of understanding, logic, contemplation and practice of new, healthier habits can work wonders.

This is where coaching can be powerful, unobtrusive, low confrontational and immensely enjoyable and rewarding.  It’s a great place to start with getting help with anger management.

What is the best therapy for anger problems?

Realistically, there is no one best therapy for damaging anger.  For some, coaching as we offer is powerful, effective and long-lasting. For others, medical professionals will need to diagnose and treat underlying conditions.  Each case and each person will need to explore their options and their preferences to master anger management.

We are happy to offer new clients an initial obligation free consultation to dive into what we offer to assist when you want to get help.